Let’s not idolize “show-off” as love
Once again the great “valentine’s day” is bestowed upon us. A whole new
bunch of great love stories are about to begin. Lovey-dovey posts will
constellate in ourhomepage. Looking into someone else’s life should be fun
keeping aside the privacy part because it provides a new story. Anyhow, it
doesn’t feel good after scrolling up in facebook after two-three minutes. Why?
It was supposed to be fun. Dolorously, it’s all the same stories, same
show-offs and same approaches. Nothing new. There’s no wrong in posting
pictures with your beloved ones in social media. Let’s not get all cranky
against social media. Let’s make peace with change but the question is till
which limit? Change is an unending process. If we don’t stop it somewhere, it
will eat up our own existence.
There’s no denying that facebook is responsible for some great things.
The world is closer and more connected and friends and family thousands of
miles away are but a click away. It has highlighted global
politics and made local communities tighter. However, it’s also ruining so many
things under our own eyes that we’re unaware of.
Being a member of young
generation, I have the golden chance to see the circus going in social media
very closely. Either someone is celebrating their “one month anniversary” or
posting pictures with deep thought quotes to show how much they love their
partner. Everyone is busy giving updates about every single thing and making it
colorful by any means. All are occupied, in uploading pictures of fancy big fat
weddings with cliché and borrowed idea of posing, dress-up, makeover, event
pattern or liking and fantasizing about doing it same to same. I go to
restaurants, see people talking the only time when they decide what to order
and that’s it. The rectangular devil kisses in their forehead and make them bow
to it after that. Couples start to give check-ins with happy pictures. When the
food comes, it’s obvious to take a picture of that too. But I don’t find that joy in their face when
they look at each other. I find very less people having actual conversation
with each other. Even the food seems happier than the faces to me. You may ask,
that’s not social media’s fault. Let me remind you one simple theory of
economics. If there’s demand there will be product. No demand, no product.
Social media demands your pictures, your life information. Therefore, we are
producing it every day, knowing or unknowingly, booby trapping ourselves!
Surprisingly, this has become a routine check. Once I was coming back from a
wedding with another married couple in their car. The wife had asked his
husband if he had uploaded the selfies. Getting a negative answer made her
pissed. She asked- why didn’t you post it yet? I wouldn’t bother if it was just
a question. It was more of a daily life question, it was kind of routine check,
it was an obvious question, that’s what hit me. When did our life start spinning
around social media? When did we start updating instead of living?
I do not veto the idea of
social media but we know the back of the coin is too crucial in this issue.
Those who are the actual user of facebook are mostly teenagers or young people.
They tend to follow things rather than creating a unique mindset. Seeing this
sort of examples in front of them frequently just shape their thoughts in a
so-called manner where they idolize it as ideal! They are thinking this is the
best way to think, express and work! They are failing to see the love our
parents share, moments we gain with our siblings and most of all even if they
do see they don’t know how to feel it without informing everyone about it. There
are lesser girls nowadays who can think of satisfied wedding without
big-budget. This should not be the situation. I, too, attend big weddings, take
DSLR pictures, check-ins in restaurants. But I did not make that obvious. If
you don’t get a fancy wedding, it’s fine. There’s still love there, plenty of
it. If you forget to take pictures or upload it’s fine. You had good times
then. If you are not giving pictures with you lover or commenting on his/her
every post that’s okay too! Love doesn’t require virtual praising.
I am not against sharing
your moments with your friends or families, but you need to cherish those
first. Isn’t that the purpose of memory? Shouldn’t memory be like turning one
page of photo album and gazing at it like your precious? Shouldn’t it be like
smiling and going over the moment without looking at the caption? You need to
understand, the moments we want to cherish are always there and will be there
whether we post it or not. Better to live those moments and make it great.
Otherwise, we will be left only with facebook posts and no memories. Even “you
have a memory to look back today” notification will be unable to bring back our
memories.
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